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When you are criticized or blamed by others, your body stiffens or trembles.
Category
- Trial
- EFT
Author
- Lumen
EFT session on the body's reaction to criticism/blame from others (stiffness/tremors)
Step 1: Define the problem and measure its severity (SUD level).
First, we measure the intensity of your awareness and feelings about the current problem.
Problem Definition: When you imagine or think about a situation in which you are being blamed or criticized by someone else, you clearly perceive a stiffening or trembling sensation in your body.
Body positioning: Determine where in your body the sensation (stiffness, tremors) is felt most intensely (e.g., chest, neck, shoulders, hands, etc.).
SUD Level Measurement: Measure the intensity of the distress caused by the sensation on a scale from 0 (not at all) to 10 (extremely intense). This number is called the Subjective Units of Distress (SUD) level. Honestly rate the intensity of your current feelings.
Example: "When others criticize me, I feel a tightness in my chest and a stiffness in my body, a score of 7."
Step 2: The Setup Statement
Although my heart trembles and my body tenses when I am criticized or condemned by others, I accept myself deeply and completely.
Execution: While saying the written declaration aloud three times, continuously tap the Karate Chop (SH) points with the fingertips of the opposite hand.
Stage 3: The Sequence
Now focus on the problem by tapping on the endpoints of the energy meridians.
" This stiffness and trembling " or " the trembling when criticized "
Revised Declaration
"Although I still have some stiffness and tremors, I accept myself deeply and completely."
Finding and Handling Aspects
Tapping individually by isolating the specific trigger (side) that causes the "stiffness/tremor".
Sensory aspects: "The pitch of the voice when criticized," "the other person's facial expression," "the physical sensation of stiffness (pressure, icy cold, etc.)"
Emotional Aspects: The strongest emotions that arise when you hear blame/criticism (e.g., shame, anger, fear, helplessness).
Mental aspects: Automatic negative thoughts that come to mind immediately after hearing criticism (e.g., “I’m not good enough,” “I made a mistake,” “I’m always like this”).
Repeat steps 1 through 4, taking each aspect as a new problem. (Example: Setup: " Even though I still feel intimidated by the other person's loud voice... ")
Finding Core Issues and Past Events
Your current reaction may stem from a specific event in your past. Tapping into that past event, especially if it's been present since childhood, can have a powerful dissolving effect.
Exploration: Think back to when this stiffness or trembling sensation first began, or to a past event that most closely resembled it (it doesn't have to be a blaming situation).
Change the focus: Instead of focusing on the current 'blame/criticism', focus the session on a specific incident from the past that you have discovered.
Example: "Although I still feel the shame of my elementary school teacher publicly criticizing me, I deeply... "
By resolving the emotional resentment of specific events, EFT creates a **generalization effect** that allows it to be applied to general, present-day problems.
Exploration: Think back to when this stiffness or trembling sensation first began, or to a past event that most closely resembled it (it doesn't have to be a blaming situation).
Change the focus: Instead of focusing on the current 'blame/criticism', focus the session on a specific incident from the past that you have discovered.
Example: "Although I still feel the shame of my elementary school teacher publicly criticizing me, I deeply..."
