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Shame from 20 Years Ago - How to Completely Relieve High School Presentation Trauma
Category
- Trauma
- EFT
Author
- Lumen
Hello. I'm still haunted by a memory from 20 years ago. One day, in high school, when the teacher asked a question, I raised my hand and gave an odd, ignorant answer. The whole class burst into laughter, and in that moment, I felt so pathetic and stupid. The memory remains vivid in my mind, as if it happened yesterday.
Whenever I have to speak in front of people, the shame from 20 years ago comes flooding back. I'm so afraid I'll say something out of the blue and be ridiculed. Not long ago, during an important company presentation, that memory came flooding back, my mind went blank, and I ended up rambling and ruining my presentation. Even now, 20 years later, that memory still haunts me, crippling my life. I want to escape this terrible shame.
EFT Session Manual: Releasing 20 Years of Shame
Step 1: Define the problem and measure emotional intensity.
Problem identification: "I remember being ridiculed and embarrassed for giving an outrageous and ignorant answer in high school science class 20 years ago."
Problem identification: "I remember being ridiculed and embarrassed for giving an outrageous and ignorant answer in high school science class 20 years ago."
Measure of Severe Emotional Disorders (SUDs): When recalling the memory, rate the intensity of the shame and distress you feel on a scale of 0 to 10. (Example: "My current emotional intensity is a 9.")
Step 2: Setup Statement
Goal: To reduce resistance through acknowledging the problem and establish a foundation for self-acceptance.
Goal: To reduce resistance through acknowledging the problem and establish a foundation for self-acceptance.
How to: Gently tap your palms and repeat the following sentence three times:
"Although I still feel the shame of that time 20 years later, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I was laughed at for giving such an absurd and ignorant answer back then, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Although I'm still afraid to speak out because of that memory and feel inadequate, I accept myself as I am."
Step 3: The Tapping Sequence
Objective: To clear blockages in the energy system by tapping specific acupressure points.
Objective: To clear blockages in the energy system by tapping specific acupressure points.
Reminder phrases: "The shame of 20 years ago," "That horrible memory," "The laughter back then," "The ignorant and absurd me."
Tapping sequence: Lightly tap the following points approximately 7 times each.
Eyebrow Start: "That shame from 20 years ago..."
Next to the eye: "The laughter back then..."
Under the eyes: "I remember messing up my presentation..."
Under the nose: "The embarrassment still lingers..."
Chin: "I think I'm a weird and ignorant person..."
Collarbone: "The fear and tension of that moment..."
Under the armpit: "This shame is suffocating me..."
Jeong Su-ri: "This terrible memory..."
Step 4: Reassess and adjust emotional intensity
After completing one round, we measure emotional intensity again.
After completing one round, we measure emotional intensity again.
If the emotional intensity drops to a 4, this is a positive sign that EFT is working. To release any remaining emotions, start again by adding the word "still remains" to the preparation and reminder phrases.
Revised reminder phrase: "The shame of 20 years ago still lingers."
Modified Preparation Sentence: "Although I still struggle with lingering shame, I deeply and completely accept myself."
Repeat this process until the emotional intensity approaches 0. The key is to flexibly modify the phrase based on the emotional intensity.
Step 5: End with positive affirmations
After negative emotions have been resolved, this is the stage to instill positive beliefs. Repeat the tapping sequence and say the following sentences:
After negative emotions have been resolved, this is the stage to instill positive beliefs. Repeat the tapping sequence and say the following sentences:
"I am free now. That memory no longer controls me."
"I am a courageous and confident person."
"My thoughts and opinions are valuable."
"I can express myself confidently at any time."
EFT is a powerful tool for clearing your energy so that past hurts don't dominate your present life. I hope this manual will help you break free from the 20-year cycle and find true freedom.
