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Specifying boundaries nonverbally
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- Boundary
An effective way to firmly set boundaries and protect yourself when someone acts rudely or tries to cross the line.
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Maintain an upright posture : When clarifying your boundaries or demands to an uncomfortable or toxic person, never lean toward them. Instead, keep your shoulders and back straight and maintain a firm stance. Additionally, a confident posture that takes up ample space prevents the other person from intruding on your territory.
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Subduing with Silence (Power Pause) : When the other person crosses the line with rude words or actions, do not react by getting angry in return. Instead, take a deep breath and remain silent for a moment, allowing the awkward and tense situation to linger in the air. This intentional silence is a very powerful means of control that makes the other person reflect on their rude behavior and pause.
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Avoid Uptalk : The habit of raising the pitch at the end of declarative sentences to sound like a question signifies strong anxiety and weakness. To convey confidence, firmly lower the pitch at the end of your sentences.
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When you like the other person's behavior, lean forward and smile; when you do not, immediately lean back in the chair and cross your arms. If you send clear signals of refusal with your body instead of refuting and arguing with words , the other person will feel unconscious pressure and modify their conditions on their own.
