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Relationship Anxiety - The Pain That Starts with Unanswered Texts
Category
- EFT
- Relationship
Author
- Lumen
Hello,
I would like to ask for advice on a problem that is weighing on my mind.
I ran into my yoga teacher by chance on the street today, and it was so nice. Since I see her twice a week, I felt especially close to her, and we had a wonderful conversation as we walked together. I really enjoyed that time, and I was so happy that when I got home, I mustered up the courage to send her a text about our conversation.
But the problem was what happened after that. It had been quite some time since I sent the text, and I hadn't received a reply. I kept worrying that maybe he didn't like me or that I was annoying him.
In fact, when I feel like I've been ignored by someone like this, it's incredibly difficult to shake that feeling. Every time a similar situation occurs, I feel a heavy burden on my heart and begin to blame myself.
I would like some help in managing these feelings I have right now.
Please reply.
Please reply.
You were happy to chat with a pleasant teacher of the opposite sex you met on the street, but when you sent a text message, there was no response, leaving you feeling ignored. I completely understand how difficult it is to deal with these feelings. EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a very effective method for dealing with recurring negative emotional patterns. EFT views all negative emotions as a "disruption in the body's energy system." Therefore, rather than trying to suppress these emotions, you can apply the basic principles of EFT to resolve the energy disturbance that is the root cause of your emotions, thereby becoming master of your emotions.
🧘♀️ EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Customized Manual
Step 1: Problem Identification and Sentiment Scoring (SUDS)
Think about the problem you're most uncomfortable with right now (the MPI): "Feeling ignored by my teacher." Rate the intensity of this feeling on a scale from 0 (not at all) to 10 (worst).
Step 2: Create a Preparatory Sentence
Combine a sentence about yourself and a problem to create a preparatory sentence. Repeat this sentence three times, tapping the fingertips in the image below.
Combine a sentence about yourself and a problem to create a preparatory sentence. Repeat this sentence three times, tapping the fingertips in the image below.
"I feel ignored by my teacher, but I accept myself deeply and completely."
"I feel bad for being ignored like this, but I deeply and completely accept myself."
Step 3: Tapping Sequence
After completing the preparatory sentence, tap the following eight acupressure points in order, 5 to 7 times each, while repeating a short phrase that reminds you of the problem (e.g., "feeling ignored," "feeling upset").
After completing the preparatory sentence, tap the following eight acupressure points in order, 5 to 7 times each, while repeating a short phrase that reminds you of the problem (e.g., "feeling ignored," "feeling upset").
Eyebrow: Inner end of eyebrow
Lateral aspect of the eye: the bone on the side of the eye
Under the eye: the bone below the eye
Under the nose: between the nose and lips
Chin: the hollow under the chin
Clavicle: the hollow area below the collarbone
Armpit: About 10cm below the armpit
Crown: top of the head
Step 4: Recheck and repeat your emotional scores.
After one session, take a deep breath and re-evaluate the intensity of your feelings of being ignored.
After one session, take a deep breath and re-evaluate the intensity of your feelings of being ignored.
If the intensity has decreased: Try the tapping session again, slightly modifying the warm-up sentence, such as "I still feel ignored."
Repeat this process until the intensity becomes 0.
As emotional discomfort decreases through EFT, you'll be able to see the situation more objectively and consider other perspectives, such as, "Perhaps the teacher was too busy to answer." I hope you'll consistently practice this manual and become masters of your emotions.
