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If you tolerate rude people, you'll get cancer. Knock on this spot right now.
Category
- Relationship
- Family
- EFT
Author
- Lumen
"My father's live-in girlfriend ignores me, and I find meeting people difficult... What should I do?"
Hello, I'm the type of person who feels much more comfortable alone than with people. Even family is no exception, so even holidays and regular gatherings can be a huge drain on my energy and stress.
My recent worries are due to "that woman" who's now living with my father. I don't care who my father spends the rest of his life with, as that's his choice. However, as our visits have become more frequent, I've been forced to stay in the same space with him repeatedly.
The problem is her attitude. She's overly friendly and kind to my wealthy relatives. But when I speak, she either blatantly ignores them or barely listens. I'm already exhausted from meeting people, but this kind of treatment makes me furious, and just being there feels like torture. I'm confused: should I just endure it for my father's sake, or should I just cut myself off altogether for my own peace of mind?
[EFT Tailored Manual: Relationship Stress and Fatigue Relief Session]
This session focuses on solving 1) the fatigue you feel when meeting people, 2) the anger you feel when being ignored, and 3) the disgust you feel when others are being two-faced.
Step 1: Preparation (Assessment)
When you think about that woman now or when you think about a time when you were ignored, rate the intensity of your feelings (SUDS) on a scale of 0 to 10 (10: I feel like I'm going to explode, 0: I feel nothing).
Step 2: Setup Statement - Tap the Karate Chop Point
Repeat the following sentence three times while tapping the point on the palm of your hand. Saying it out loud is effective.
"Although I find meeting people so tiring, and especially unbearable being with that woman who ignores me, I deeply understand and fully accept myself for who I am."
"Although I am furious at the attitude of that woman who is only kind to the rich and ignores my opinions, I acknowledge these feelings and love and accept myself."
"Although I am miserable and exhausted from being forced to stay where I am for my father's sake, I now choose peace of mind and take care of myself."
Step 3: Reminder Phrase - Tapping Key Acupoints
Tap each point about 7 to 10 times, focusing on your current negative emotions with short phrases.
Jeong Su-ri: "I'm so tired of meeting people."
Inner eyebrow: "That woman's two-faced attitude."
Eyes: "The way you only bow down to rich relatives."
Under the eyes: "That look that ignores what I'm saying."
Under the nose: "That unpleasant feeling of being ignored."
Under the lip: "The pain of being forced to stay there."
Collarbone: "I feel like all my energy is being drained."
Under the armpit: "I really don't want to see you."
Step 4: Reframing/Choice - Affirmative Round
Once your negative emotions have subsided a bit (SUDS has dropped below 3-4), tap on a phrase that suggests choosing a new perspective.
Jeong Su-ri: "It's natural for me to feel tired. I need to cherish my energy."
Inner eyebrow: "That woman ignoring me is a matter of her character, not my worth."
Eyes: "I choose not to let her attitude take away my peace."
Under the eyes: "I deserve to spend time with people who respect me."
Under the nose: "Keeping my distance is how I protect myself, if necessary."
Under the lips: "Your choice is yours, my peace is mine."
Collarbone: "Now I let this fatigue and anger flow out of my body."
Under the armpit: "I am safe and at peace wherever I am."
Step 5: Re-assessment
Take three deep breaths. Measure your emotional intensity (SUDS) when recalling the situation. If your score remains high, repeat step 2, targeting the most intrusive specific image (e.g., the woman's mocking gaze).
