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Feeling invisible at work
Category
- Relationship
- Trial
- EFT
Author
- Lumen
Work life has been so hard lately. Especially during meetings with my team leader, I feel like I'm invisible. No matter how good my ideas are, he barely listens, and it feels like my words just go down the drain. Then, when another colleague suggests the same thing, he'll say, "Oh, that's a great idea!" At first, I thought, "Maybe I miscommunicated," but this keeps happening, and I'm so angry I feel worthless. My self-esteem has plummeted, and I even suffer from insomnia at night. In fact, I think this feeling stems from a childhood memory of not being accepted by my parents. The feeling of helplessness, that "no matter what I say, it's useless," weighs heavily on me.
EFT Session: Releasing Ignored Emotions
Step 1: Define the problem and measure its severity.
Our first goal is to clarify our current emotions and determine their intensity.
Define your most frustrating problem (MPI): " The anger and frustration you feel when your opinions are ignored in meetings with your team leader ."
Severity of Feeling Scale (SUDS): When you think about this feeling right now, how intense is it on a scale from 0 (not at all) to 10 (extremely)? (e.g., 9)
This score will be an important indicator going forward to see how well we have released our emotions through EFT.
Step 2: Set up preparatory sentences and associative phrases
Now we are ready to accept our feelings and begin healing.
Now we are ready to accept our feelings and begin healing.
Preparation sentence:
Repeat three times, tapping the Karate Chop Point with your right or left hand.
" Although I feel angry and frustrated that my team leader ignores my opinion, I deeply and completely accept myself despite this situation. "
(Depending on the situation) " Although I have suffered from the feeling of helplessness that 'my words are useless' since I was young, I deeply and completely accept this feeling ."
Associative phrase:
Here are some key phrases to keep in mind while tapping.
" This anger and frustration" or "this feeling of being ignored "
Step 3: Execute the tapping sequence
Now, we'll begin tapping the acupressure points to release negative emotions. Tap each point five to seven times in the order shown below, repeating the associated phrase.
Now, we'll begin tapping the acupressure points to release negative emotions. Tap each point five to seven times in the order shown below, repeating the associated phrase.
Eyebrow Start: "This feeling of being ignored"
Next to the corner of the eye: "This anger and frustration."
Under the eyes: "This feeling of being ignored"
Under the nose: "This anger and frustration"
Chin: "This feeling of being ignored"
Clavicle: "This anger and frustration."
Armpit: "This feeling of being ignored"
Jeong Su-ri: "This anger and frustration."
Step 4: Remeasure and Deepen
After completing one round, pause, take a deep breath, and re-evaluate your initial emotional intensity (SUDS).
After completing one round, pause, take a deep breath, and re-evaluate your initial emotional intensity (SUDS).
If your score drops to 5, start tapping again by revising your preparatory sentence, such as, " Even though I still have some anger, I deeply and completely accept myself."
If your score hasn't changed much, focus on tapping on the root of your emotions—your "childhood experiences." Use evocative phrases like "I remember being ignored by my parents as a child" or "That moment when I couldn't express my opinion."
Step 5: Plant Positive Affirmations
Once the emotional intensity has sufficiently decreased to below 2, it's time to instill a new positive belief. Now, tap on the tapping point and repeat the following sentence:
Once the emotional intensity has sufficiently decreased to below 2, it's time to instill a new positive belief. Now, tap on the tapping point and repeat the following sentence:
"I am a valuable person just the way I am."
"I have the courage to speak my mind."
"I respect myself regardless of how others react."
Session Wrap-up:
EFT may not completely resolve your issues in a single session. By repeating this process whenever emotions resurface, you will gradually be able to free yourself from the burden of feeling "neglected," gain the strength to fully accept yourself, and engage in relationships with dignity.
EFT may not completely resolve your issues in a single session. By repeating this process whenever emotions resurface, you will gradually be able to free yourself from the burden of feeling "neglected," gain the strength to fully accept yourself, and engage in relationships with dignity.
