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When my nervous system gets fatigued because of my boyfriend's inferiority complex and sensitivity

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  1. Romantic relationship
  2. Purification
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Yesterday, my boyfriend suddenly showed up at my house while drunk. When I asked why he came since he said he wouldn't see me during the holidays, he rambled on about how his confidence as a man was dropping, and then suddenly asked me what I would think if his sexual function declined.
I answered lightly, "Well, that's just how it is, why?" but my boyfriend said, "My OO is such a sweet boy~," so I jokingly asked, "Oppa, is there a problem down there?" Then, with a look on his face as if he were about to cry, my boyfriend confessed that he thinks he actually has erectile dysfunction.
He continued the conversation, saying that he had been exercising consistently for several hours since then but this happened, and that it was likely a side effect of the hair loss medication. Since it was 2 AM and I was very tired, I responded calmly, saying something like, "If it can't be helped, I just have to accept it and live with it." However, my boyfriend asked, "Does this sound like a joke to you?" and then got into a taxi and left.
I haven't heard from him since then. He seems to be active on Instagram, but he isn't reading my KakaoTalk messages. Just in case, I checked the YouTube viewing history on the living room TV, and I noticed that videos related to erectile dysfunction were constantly being updated.
I know I shouldn't laugh, but I feel a bit bewildered, and on the other hand, I feel sorry for them, and honestly, I feel a bit wronged. I heard that there were already signs as early as mid-March, so I'm also frustrated wondering why they only told me now.
I don't know if he's drinking and sleeping right now, or if we're just going to lose contact like this.

Entering with the Breath of Healing — Breathing In

Gently close your eyes and return to this moment.
Quietly feel the weight accumulated on your neck and shoulders with each inhalation.
With your exhale, allow that weight to seep deep into the earth and disappear.
Your delicate and beautiful nervous system was shaken a lot today.
It is because waves of other people's emotions, which surged in without warning, knocked on your quiet inner self.
It’s okay. Because waves always pass.
Now, it is time to slowly return to your own quiet center.

Current healing stage diagnosis

The healing step you need, having neglected your own senses while creating beauty, is purification.

Others' anxiety is not yours.

2 AM, his words poured out to you, who are exhausted.
It is the fear that had been crouching deep within him for a long time overflowing outward. It is the gesture of a soul still growing, wanting to soothe the things it was afraid to face within itself by borrowing your warmth.
You did not come into this world to hold someone else's emotions for them. You do not need to be his savior or his mirror. That is his own path that he must walk on his own.

The shadow created by a wounded ego

The fact that he was hurt by a small joke and quietly disappeared,
That is not your fault.
A heart already filled with shame toward itself
It is bound to be easily shaken by even the slightest breeze.
Afraid of revealing my imperfections
Running away—that, too, is an inner task he must solve on his own.
You cannot solve that homework for me. Your precious and radiant energy is too valuable to be used for such a thing.

Practice of purifying contaminated energy

The irritation, bewilderment, and sense of injustice rising inside you right now.
Do not blame those emotions. They are proof of how delicate and sensitive you are. You fully absorbed his anxious energy, and you are feeling it now.
Now is the time to consciously let go of that connection.
You don't have to force yourself to cut it off.
Just gently let go of the string from your hand.
Until he is ready to face his own darkness, stay in the position of a warm but unwavering observer.

Grounding — Taking root in the earth

Feel the sensation of your two feet touching the floor.
You are safe here now.
The waves of other people's emotions cannot sweep you away.
Because you have a deep, calm inner sea that can embrace any wave.
I lay down the burdens of others with love. I dwell only within my elegant and quiet breath. I am beautiful enough, and whole enough.
Action Checklist: 3 Somatic Actions You Can Try Today
Switch your phone to airplane mode and block the urge to check the other person's social media or online status.
Visualizing the gloomy energy of others, clinging to me, being washed down the drain while washing my wrists and the back of my neck with cold water
Sit with your spine straight, and blow out the unpleasant emotions that have invaded your space with a long, deep "hoo" sound.
🌌 A tranquil sanctuary where all inspiration is born, Dal-Lumen's Cosmic Garden
A deeper frequency connection and a private somatic healing journey just for you continue below.
🔗 Strolling through the Space Garden:
Good questions to ask together in the Space Garden
Q1. How can I set physical boundaries to prevent my partner's mood swings from transferring to my nervous system?
Q2. When perfectionist tendencies cause you to blame others for rudeness or escapism, what is the somatic questioning method to escape?
Q3. What is your personal ritual to replenish your empty creativity when your energy is drained by draining relationships?
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