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"Am I worth this much?" The injustice of being ignored: How to build a spiritual shield to maintain self-esteem without the approval of others.
Category
- Career
- Relationship
- Trial
- EFT
Author
- Lumen
Hello.
I'm currently learning on the job through an apprenticeship. While I feel a sense of accomplishment in growing through this work, the fact that I'm working without financial compensation is increasingly eating away at me.
Despite my recent achievements, I still don't receive a fair wage. I often feel inadequate and worthless, feeling like I'm not being compensated adequately for my contributions.
The most difficult thing is the disconnect I feel with my mentor. He relies heavily on my time, energy, and abilities, yet whenever I offer suggestions or suggestions for improvement, my opinions are completely ignored. Without me, he wouldn't have been able to achieve his current accomplishments, yet I can't shake the feeling that he's being ignored simply because of my unpaid status as an "apprentice."
As this situation repeats itself, I find myself feeling aggrieved and depressed, feeling like I'm diminishing my own worth. Intellectually, I understand that this process is necessary, but emotionally, every time I think, "Am I truly worth this much?", all motivation vanishes.
I ask for help to break the cycle of feelings of insignificance, resentment, neglect, and depression, and to move forward fully recognizing my worth and talents, regardless of external circumstances.
Relieves feelings of shame and injustice
First, I will proceed with EFT by focusing on the emotions that I feel most strongly about at the moment: the feeling of "inadequate compensation for my achievements" and the resentment of being ignored by my teacher.
Step 1: Measure the intensity of emotions (SUD Level)
At this very moment, think of the emotion you feel most strongly in your body (wretchedness, resentment, depression, etc.).
Where on your body do you feel this emotion (e.g., chest, navel, shoulder, etc.)?
How intense is this emotion on a scale from 0 (not at all) to 10 (extreme)? (SUD Level)
Repeating the Set-up Statement
Now, repeat the following setup phrase three times while continuously tapping the Karate Chop Point. Focus honestly on your emotions as you say the phrase.
Setup syntax:
"Even though I feel miserable and wronged because I am not fully compensated, I still love and accept myself deeply and completely."
Tapping (repeat 3 times):
"Even though I feel miserable and wronged because I am not fully compensated, I still love and accept myself deeply and completely."
"Even though I feel miserable and wronged because I am not fully compensated, I still love and accept myself deeply and completely."
"Even though I feel miserable and wronged because I am not fully compensated, I still love and accept myself deeply and completely."
Sequence Tapping
Now, tap each of the eight acupressure points on your body in order, approximately seven times each, while repeating the "Reminder Phrase." This reminder phrase reminds you of your current emotional state, helping you release emotional energy.
Reminder phrase: "This wretchedness and injustice"
Top of Head Inner eyebrow (Eyebrow) Side of Eye Under Eye Under Nose Chin Below the collarbone Under Arm | "This shabbiness and injustice" "Insufficient compensation for performance" "The injustice of being ignored" "You don't even know that you can't live without me" "I feel ignored just because of my status." "This shabbiness and gloom" "I feel like my worth is being ignored." "All these feelings of injustice" |
Testing and Repeating
Take a moment to catch your breath and refocus on the emotions you initially measured: resentment and shame.
What is your current emotional intensity (SUD Level)?
Change the reminder phrase (focusing on the remaining emotion): "Residual resentment"
Setup phrase (3 hand taps):
"Although there are still lingering resentments, I still love and accept myself deeply and completely."
Sequence Tapping: Reminder Syntax
"This remaining injustice"
"I still feel shabby"
"The moment my teacher ignored me"
"I feel like my opinions are being ignored."
"I feel like my contributions aren't being recognized."
"This remaining frustration"
"The gap between my values and my status"
"The remaining injustice"
Positive Reframing
If your emotional intensity has dropped below 2, you can now move on to the stage of fostering positive self-acceptance and a new perspective. Change the reminder phrase to a positive one and tap.
Setup phrase (3 hand taps):
"Although I still have some of this feeling, I love and accept myself deeply and completely, knowing that the value of my contribution far exceeds my status."
Reminder Phrase: "My worth never changes."
Reminder phrase
"My contribution is clear, my value remains unchanged."
"I know my worth even without the approval of a teacher."
"I'm already indispensable to this work."
"I will acknowledge my own achievements."
"Choose inner value, not external treatment."
"My efforts and contributions are completely worthwhile."
"I'm getting stronger from this experience."
"My worth is already sufficient and overflowing."
Final inspection
Take another breath and focus on the feelings of shame and resentment you felt at first.
What is your current emotional intensity (SUD Level)?
When you recall a situation where you were ignored by your teacher, how do you feel? (e.g., I still feel uncomfortable, but now I feel "pity" rather than annoyed.)
If your emotions reach a score of 0 or 1, you have successfully released the energy of these negative emotions and integrated a new perspective. Your inner worth is not determined by external rewards or rewards. I hope this EFT session will help you build unwavering self-acceptance of your worth and contribution. Repeat this process as needed to continue working through any remaining subtle emotions.
